The biggest lie in self-help is this: You don’t “find” yourself. People spend their whole lives searching, as if who they are is buried somewhere far away. But you’re not hidden treasure... You’re not waiting under a rock to be discovered. You don’t find yourself. You invent yourself. That’s why the Torah says: לא בשמים היא It’s not in Heaven. Not distant. It’s right here; in your mouth, your heart, your action. Life isn’t about discovering who you are. It’s about tearing away the false picture,

In the fall of 2024, 24-year-old Sam Nordquist left his home in Minnesota full of hope. He had fallen in love with a woman online — a woman he believed truly cared for him — and he traveled more than a thousand miles to start a new life with her in upstate New York. His social media showed a smiling couple, affectionate TikToks, and a whirlwind romance. But behind those posts, something much darker was happening. The woman Sam went to meet, 38-year-old Precious Arzuaga, lived in a rundown roadsi